Sometimes when you look at how other parents are with their children it might seem to you that you’re a terrible parent that does everything wrong and will completely mess up the kids. I know I felt that way at times during pregnancy and the first few years of raising my daughter. Something that cemented this type of thoughts in my mind is watching how my friends behave with their kids. They never argued with them, yelled and kids listened to them pretty much all the time. It wasn’t until much later that I found out that I’m not getting the whole picture.
Even the best parents don’t know what they’re doing
It was only after talking with my friends that I found out that they have fierce fights with their kids. They manage to talk enough sense into them to behave properly when in social situations, but at home they “let loose” and act out. I was going through something similar with my daughter, with one exception. She didn’t behave properly even when we were in a social setting.
She would argue with the other kids over toys, cry her heart out, etc. As she got older she outgrew that kind of behavior luckily. Things were much better with my son, since I had experience at that point. All in all, important thing to know is that even the best of us aren’t sure what we’re doing sometimes. Just relax, you’re bound to mess up your kid somehow, everybody does, just do your best and you’ll be fine.